The plans you have made for your week, your month, your year – all of this is built on a perception of control, and an illusion of certainty. Yet, plans help us navigate our lives. Keep making plans, and as you do, acknowledge that there will be impermanence. Some of your plans, or elements of your plans will die. And when this happens, call it death. Remind yourself, that this is a type of death. Now, you are living with death.
Margaret likens conversations about death to the power of water. If you let the water out fully, it will go rushing out, but if you let it out a little at a time, then it will be more manageable to control. This preparation and readiness for death are important. By deliberately talking about it now, we won’t be as caught off guard, or as afraid, when it enters our lives.
Being with the dying and going through your own cycle of grief is going to change you. It might surprise you to learn that this is a process that can bring you gifts if you are ready to receive them. After I reached a certain point in my journey, I felt ready to share my …