Last week we discussed the power of your words. Your words are a very powerful tool and expressing your thoughts as words is one of the strongest powers you possess. If you know me at all, you know that I like to see all of us using our powers for good. This is just one of the reasons that the agreement to be impeccable with your word is so meaningful to me.
What do I mean by agreement? You have agreements that you have made with yourself. These agreements come from the beliefs that you have adopted throughout the course of your life. The beliefs that you accept become part of your character. If you agree or accept the belief that you are the family trouble maker, then you will make causing trouble part of who you are. In a sense you have made a treaty with yourself to be that family trouble maker. You accept or agree that this is who you are and this is how you must behave.
So to agree to be impeccable with your word means that you are adopting the belief and the behavior to use your words carefully. You agree to do this whether you are directing your words towards others or toward yourself. This agreement is one comes from the book ‘The Four Agreements’, by Don Miguel Ruiz.
The agreement to be impeccable with your word can be approached from three separate yet equally important parameters.
Last week we discussed two of those parameters:
1) Say what you are going to do and do what you say.
2) Do not use your words to hurt others, to lash out in anger or to seek revenge.
Today we cover the third parameter:
3) Do not make agreements based on the false or negative words of others. When others use the power of their words to tell you are not smart enough or not good enough or that you can’t sing or you are not good looking they are not being impeccable with their words. Guess what? If you decide to accept their negative words, then you are making an agreement with yourself that you are not smart enough or good looking or fill in the blank and YOU are NOT being impeccable with your word. The power of your word includes the power of how you use your words either for yourself or against yourself. To be impeccable with your word means that you do not accept the poison that comes from others when they use their words improperly. You have a responsibility to accept yourself and honor yourself and use your own internal words for good. You cannot control what others are going to say; you can control how you receive their words and what you do with those words once they reach your ears.
When you agree to speak (or write) the words that really represent you and to avoid using words to harm others and to reject the harmful words of others, you are being impeccable with your word.