The other day I found myself becoming restless and agitated in a meeting. I kept thinking things like:
“Why can’t SOME people just stick to the agenda and keep moving?”
“Why do SOME people need things to be exactly their way, why can’t they compromise just a bit?”
“Why do SOME people keep saying the same thing over and over again?”
Then it hit me, SOME people should use this situation as an opportunity to practice patience and compassion toward others. SOME people would be ME.
Instead of becoming crabby with OTHER people, this was a perfect opportunity for me to practice what I preach. To try and understand why I allowed these people to get on my nerves. This was definitely a chance for me to strengthen my dealing with difficult people skills.
Upon reflection, none of the people I was inwardly complaining about were truly being difficult. They were being themselves. They were processing information in their own styles.
The person who could not stick to the agenda is probably not a linear thinker. It is also possible that he is more of an extrovert and needs to think out loud. So it might not be that he cannot stick to an agenda, it might be that as he processed each item he was verbally expressing most of his related thoughts.
The person who appeared to need things exactly his way is most likely a precise thinker who needs context. When ideas were being tossed around and those ideas were not expressed in a way that was familiar to him, it probably made him uncomfortable. He was also very detail oriented and was not happy with any idea that was not fully defined.
And the person who kept saying the same thing over and over again just needed to know he was being heard. He needed acknowledgement. He kept repeating his thought because nobody responded. Once he received a response, he stopped repeating himself.
And the person who was becoming impatient (ME), well she needs to remember that everyone has their own way of processing ideas and expressing their own ideas. Our differences can truly be our strengths.