One of my biggest disappointments, when I entered the workforce was when I met somebody who had been with the company for 20 years. I had expectations about who they were as a person because they had been in the workforce for 20 years. I had to learn that I was wrong. My expectations were not always going to be met, and my expectations were not always fair. But I really thought that someone who had been on a job for 20 years, all those years of getting all this experience, they were going to be this great, evolved person.
Have you ever heard (or read) this saying? “Some people have 20 years of experience but others have the same one year of experience, they’ve just done it 20 times in a row.” That’s the person who has been on the job for 20 years but is doing it the same way that they were doing it the first year. And as a person, they’re acting the same way that they did in the first year.
Let’s make sure that you and I are different and that our years of experience include navigating any mistakes we make along the way and changing and growing with the experience. And that’s how we become the person who really has 20 years of experience as opposed to the person who’s just done the same thing 20 years in a row.
So you know what? If you missed a deadline because you have poor time management skills, get help. Go to a class. Find a system that works for you. If you have a Franklin Covey planner and you don’t like it because it’s too detailed, that’s okay. That doesn’t mean you don’t like time management, it means you don’t like that system. Find something that works for you.
If you get drunk and stupid at a company event, don’t drink at company events. And if you can’t go without drinking, then stay home. It might be better to stay home and be missed than to go and become an urban legend. If you constantly or consistently act out with anger, get help with this issue. When you’re at a meeting and you feel the anger boil, excuse yourself from the room, hold your breath—not too long, I don’t want you to pass out—or count to yourself. It takes 90 seconds for anger to go through your body because it is actually a physiological response.
Let’s make new mistakes!!
You don’t want to keep repeating the same behavior over and over again. I’d like to say it this way—let’s make new mistakes. You can’t always prevent yourself from making mistakes so when you do, make them new, Ok?