I can think of at least three things I am resisting. I can tell you why I am resisting these things. I can tell you which ones I am most likely to do something about and which ones I will continue to resist a bit longer. In fact in the interest of practicing what I preach, here are three things I am resisting:
1) Starting a PhD program.
2) Finishing my book and submitting it for publication.
3) Finding a way to work with AIDS patients.
I told you I know why I am resisting the above (or do I?). Let’s zero-in on one item:
Finishing my book and submitting it for publication. Why am I resisting finishing my book and submitting it for publication? I equate the process as time-consuming and expensive.
Is this a logical reason to resist moving forward with my book? Oh wait I am sorry, it is really an EXCUSE. Let’s dig deeper:
Note that I say, ‘I equate the process’, this means I don’t really know how long it will take or how much it will cost. So shame on me, I am giving up on this way too early. I need to do the research to find out how much time and money it will really consume.
What else is delaying me from moving forward?
I also have a concern about whether or not I will self-publish. If I go the self-publishing route will I be taken seriously as an author? Plenty of reputable people do self-publish. But if going that route bothers me, then why don’t I just stick to submitting my book to established publishers?
What if I can’t find someone to publish the book? What if my topic is not considered interesting or fresh enough? Oh, now the real reason for my resistance is starting to show up. This sure feels like a fear of rejection. If the book is rejected and I feel passionately enough about it, I should keep going and keep working on it and keep submitting it. Right now by resisting any forward action, I don’t have to face any fear of rejection.
I could still dig deeper, but you get the point. Some of the reasons we use to resist an action are not the real reasons. Until we understand and deal with the real reasons we are resisting something or until resisting something becomes too uncomfortable, we might not move forward.