“Don’t put on armor when all you need is radar.” – Anonymous
Some people just love a fight. They see every negotiation as a battle to be waged and won. Every debate is about proving someone else wrong. Perhaps you work with someone who is always rushing into some type of confrontation or another. I am not talking about necessary confrontations that help resolve conflict. I am talking about creating drama or envisioning conflict where none exists.
If a team member makes a mistake or misses a deadline, it is a personal affront. That team member must have done it on purpose. They either did it as a challenge or to make someone look bad or maybe they did it out of spite. I do not know about you, but that just makes me tired.
Well here is an idea for our friends who love to rush to arms. Perhaps they could gather some intelligence before they declare war. Maybe they could find out why a mistake was made or a deadline was missed. A little information goes a long way.
Somehow we need them to know that it is not necessary for them to put on their armor and rush into battle, instead we want them to put on their radar, do their reconnaissance and find out what is really happening. Chances are a battle is not necessary.
You could start by forwarding this to them, but they might think you are trying to pick a fight!